Valentine Blog Swap

So I must first apologize for my tardiness for the Valentine's blog swap - I thought this was scheduled and apparently it didn't save. Fail. So, without further ado I present to you my guest blogger for the day.




I got the lovely Wife on the Roller Coaster as my guest blogger! She is the organizer of this awesome event (that I screwed up... fail - I AM SO SORRY!) We have similar tastes on Valentine's Day so I was really stoked to read this and not get stuck with a lovey gushy post (KIDDING!) Ok, I'll quit babbling and let this milwife extraordinaire do her thing...

Valentine Scrooge

I’m not quite sure why I’m anti-Valentine’s Day. I’ve never had a boyfriend dump me on Valentine’s Day. I’ve never had an embarrassing lingerie incident. I harbor no irrational aversions to pink or red hearts. I just don’t like Valentine’s Day. I admit it, I’m a Valentine Scrooge.

The last time I remember getting excited about Valentine’s Day was in Mrs. Barshatky’s second grade class. I watched all the boys I had crushes on stuff little cards into my homemade mailbox, and I rushed home from school to read them all, tossing aside those from the girls and drooling over those from Todd and Doug and Kevin and Rory. Life is simple when you’re a kid. Romance comes in the form of a heart-shaped candy that says “Be Mine” and a card the size of a Post-It note. And if a gal is really lucky, her name is even written on the card by the suitor himself and not his mother.

But the farther away I got from second grade, the more unimpressed I was by V-day. By the time I hit my mid-20’s, I was completely disillusioned and saw Valentine’s Day as an overblown Hallmark holiday that makes couples feel like they have to live up to some strict set of ├╝ber romantic expectations and makes single people lament their relationship status.

My husband and I usually treat Valentine’s Day like any other day on the calendar. To his credit though, he used to make attempts to woo me every February 14, probably because he thought that’s what he was supposed to do. But after 12 years of failing to turn me into a romantic, he has given up and crossed over to the dark side. I think he’s more of a Valentine Scrooge than I am now.

I have to admit that my Valentine Scrooge tendencies are gradually fading thanks to my children. Just as I’m able to live vicariously through their excitement over Santa and the Easter bunny, I’m reliving my second grade Valentine’s memories through them. The other day, as I helped my 3-year-old daughter choose the prettiest girly cards and my 7-year-old son the most manly cards, I remembered how special that exchange of cheap Valentines in decorated paper bags was to me at their age. I couldn’t help but smile and wish I could switch places with them for the day.

Yes, life is simple when you’re a kid. When I asked my son what Valentine’s Day means to him, he said, “We get cards and people like each other.” How profoundly simple: the day is about people liking each other. Of course! And as I momentarily looked at the holiday through the eyes of a child, I realized I might actually enjoy Valentine’s Day again if I could overlook all the commercialism and think of it as a celebration of love.

After that aha moment, I wondered if maybe this year I would be visited by 3 Cupids in my sleep who would change my Valentine Scrooge-like ways. I wondered if I would wake up this Valentine’s morning overcome with a renewed sense of romanticism and a newfound appreciation for flowers and candy. And as I opened my eyes this morning, I thought…

Um, nope. Still a Valentine Scrooge. Bah humbug.


13 comments

  1. I totally want to decorate a paper bag for myself right now. We aren't a big Valentine's Day couple, but I always buy my husband a new money clip on Valentine's Day. I tell him it's so he can buy me presents for the rest of the year and have Valentine's Day off.

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  2. I am so happy I wasn't even close to being the only Lover's Day scrooge. Seriously.

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  3. Hahaha I LOVE this post! I went to the store today and saw at least 10-15 men squishing through the aisles and checkout lines holding flowers and candy. I never see men doing that any other day of the year. I'm a Valentine Scrooge to the T so glad I'm not alone in this :P

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  4. Thanks for letting me guest blog for you in the swap Mrs. P! And no worries about the tardiness. Better late than never right?

    Thanks so much for participating! Loved your post over at Mrs. S's place. Can't wait for the next swap!

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  5. I'm totally down with the V-Day scrooge. I am too. Not really explainable, but I'm okay with that.

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  6. Valentine Scrooge... I love it! Would you say, "Bah Lovebug?" too :P

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  7. Aww, "we get cards and people like each other." That's just perfect. I love how kids can get straight to the point of things!

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  8. I like this!!! We don't really do Valentines day either, it's just another way to make you spend money! :) That's just my thoughts.

    We did do a big Valentines day this year, it's only the second time in 11 years that Wes has gotten me something...but only because Cameron guilted us into it b/c we forgot to get Cameron something last year!!! We are bad parents :(

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  9. LOVE this post, Roller Coaster!! I'm not big on Hallmark holidays myself, either. I dont' care if we go out to dinner on Valentine's, New Years, or any other day to tell the truth. In fact, I'd rather go out on a day that is less expensive and less loaded with sentimental barfiness. But on the other hand, I do love watching my kids get all excited about every holiday now that I'm a mom. Even one's that I've never celebrated before are fun for them. Like St. Patrick's Day and Kindness Week. I love the innocence of children. Everything has the potential to be wonderful and good in their eyes. If only we adults could keep that sense of optimism and love...

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  10. I never was a vday scrooge, but I might become one!

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  11. Hey girlie! I hope you and the little one are doing great. Just wanted to let you know I gave you an award on my blog :) My most valuable milspouse award :)
    xoxo
    http://www.eatpraylovelive.com/2011/02/most-valuable-milspouse-awards.html

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  12. It's fine to be a scrooge. I just like Valentine's Day for the chocolates.

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